Are We Giving Bad Advice?
Should parents stop giving parenting advice to those not asking for it?
I got asked this question a few days ago. I had previously thought that the answer was obvious: I don’t have the right or the time to get in the middle of the business of other people. But it got me thinking …
What value does advice have if it is unsolicited? Does it have any value at all? Is parenting advice different? Does it have some side effects that we are dangerous? Forcing opinions on anyone who isn’t asking can’t be a good thing, can it? I’m not sure that I know the answer, but I’m taking a try at it. Let me know what you think.
Humans have collectively discovered a fantastic evolutionary method that has allowed us to dramatically pass every other animal in terms of translating ideas into actions: We cheat!
We can learn from the experience of others, and we can even learn from the ideas of long-dead ancestors that have traveled through time stowed away in the books. But those activities are initiated by the person who is motivated to learn. It only works if the seeker is seeking. You cannot fool motivation or fake creativity. If…